Adi Da Samraj:

The thing that makes you unhappy is your own contraction. That's it, absolutely! Have I always said this? (audience affirms)

That is it. That is it entirely but it is a terrible effort, a terrible joint that separates you from God. You MUST hear this because it separates you entirely from everything given and mankind has never been denied this force, this grace. Human beings are attached to this effort as reflected throughout their body minds. The first thing you must do is understand my argument.

You are devoted to this effort of Narcissus, this reaction, this vital shaft which shuts you down so that you cannot experience something greater.

So the first incidence or spiritual act is to hear the argument of the Adept. But to hear it you must observe yourself through the word communicated by the Adept to the point of understanding this contraction. You must observe it. You must see it. You must observe it to the point of seeing. It's not happening to you. It's just like moving your mouth, blinking your eyeballs like the movements of your intestines to a rhythm that you have become habituated to. It's really very simple but you must observe it. You must understand this thing.

So this is the first office of spiritual life. The second office, having heard this teaching, is to become responsible for this effort. This contraction that is your self and every aspect of your body mind is to receive my blessing which is always given, always given. Give in your attention at any given moment and you will receive this grace. It is always pouring through this body mind which is no longer a person you see.

Also see:

The Best Thing is to be Uncomfortable

Understanding the Self Contraction and the The Persuit of Union

Beyond the Koan

The First Thing

Money, Food and Sex

The Art of Spiritual Life

Vital Shock

The Grace of Suffering

Choose What You Will Do